By Dr. Joshua Straub
Sitting at the dentist recently was a bit painful. With my mouth wide open, my dental hygienist told me about a recent accident that took the life of her best friend’s son. He was 26. Unable to speak and drool rolling down my face, I just listened. I prayed a silent prayer for that family.
Our greatest power struggles came when our kids had an iPad or one of our iPhones. Nothing else came close.
If you’re a parent, you know what causes “crazy” in your kids. Usually—at least for us—they’re either “hangry” (when hunger turns angry) or tired.
Screens make hungry and tired behavior look sane.
My first bicycle was my gateway to freedom. I explored places all six-year-olds should be allowed to go. I traveled as far as my imagination—and backyard—would take me.
There was beauty in the freedom I had on my bicycle—until the day I realized how limited I was in the places I could go. If I could just go beyond my backyard, I thought, I could actually explore new places. Real places.
I had a few shocking revelations when I first became a parent.
First, I grossly underestimated the amount of time and energy these living, breathing, screaming, hungry, sleepless, restless, 100-percent-dependent-upon-us human beings require of us. Even as a counselor and coach, I was ill-prepared for the chaos about to invade our home. Secondly, until this point, the only place I questioned my salvation was on the golf course.
I’ll never forget the night I had a phone call with my cousin’s high school sweetheart. By now, he was a sophomore playing football at a Power 5 Division I school—and they were still together. As you can imagine, he also had the attention on campus that a football player of that caliber experiences—especially from the ladies.
Good parents naturally want to protect their children. If you’re anything like me, you may have even veered into wanting to overprotect your child (especially your first-born—be honest) from every bump and bruise they endured through those early preschool years. The problem is when this attitude of wanting to overprotect leads to saving them from the painful emotions of life’s natural consequences (e.g. calling their friend’s parents to settle your child’s disputes; doing their homework for them; not allowing them to feel the pain of being cut from a sports team; or even...
By Christi Straub
You know the voices. The constant stream of what you’re not doing right or could be doing better. I don’t think I’m the only one who hears them.
The voices leave me feeling inadequate, incapable, shameful, anxious, searching, spinning, spiraling. They come at me 24/7—most often from a small rectangular screen. We voluntarily stare at them, sign up, subscribe and log in for another beating on a...
The single most requested topic I speak and coach families on is creating a screen-balanced home. I use the phrase “screen-balanced” because I don’t believe technology is harmful. I do believe technology without limits is.
“The Enemy Wants Us To Think Giving Into Weakness Isn’t A Big Deal.”
I read this in a Facebook devotional the other day—at least that is my version of what it said. Because of the little people that live under our roof, I haven’t slept in about four years—so my memory isn’t what it used to be.
Nobody enters marriage expecting it to end in divorce. Yet, if statistics hold true, this is what happens to about half of all couples in their first marriage.
However, there are a few steps you can take that will help you divorce-proof your marriage, even prior to getting engaged.
About every six months my wife, Christi, goes on a weekend getaway with her friends—and I’m left alone with our two preschoolers—for three full days.
The last time my bride enjoyed a much-needed weekend away, I had both children at the grocery store. Besides pushing them a little faster and spinning them around a little harder in the cart, I didn’t do anything unlike Christi when she takes them by herself. I made sure to...
Do you remember the viral craze a few years ago called the Cold Water Challenge, where people were nominated by someone on social media to give to a charity of their choice? Sounded altruistic, right?
Living in Branson, MO had its perks. One of those was having a season pass to Silver Dollar City, an amusement park with great food and activities for the entire family. I remember one time Christi and I were just entering the gate with our son when we passed a woman...
I remember a moment when our son, Landon, was about 20-months-old.
As I sat on the chair in our bedroom, reading, I looked over to see him enter the room. He got no more than three feet into the room before he stopped to notice a picture propped up against the wall.
As Landon looked at the picture, I watched him lie down on his belly and lift his head to be face level with the image. It was...
One of my earliest memories of being bullied happened at a sleepover with my friend Dan. We were outside playing in a sandbox. Living in a small town, we had friends who lived within walking distance. Before long, two neighbor kids joined us. But they didn’t want to play in the sand.
Getting our kids ready for bed, Christi and I got into a little battle with our daughter's diaper. Before you judge us, it wasn't a number two, and yes, it was wrapped. It ended in the playroom with me covering my head in fear of it actually coming unwrapped. The laughter filled our house.
To be fair, many nights are not like this. If you were to walk into our home during the bath / bedtime routine, you'd likely hear...
As a father of two, I can readily identify with Marlin’s heartfelt promise to Nemo in Finding Nemo: “Don’t worry, I’ve got you now. I won’t let anything happen to you.”
For many of us, the first moments of becoming a parent are riddled with a strange mix of love, excitement, and, yes, fear. Our minds begin playing the movie that seems to never quit—the clips of everything that could go wrong. From upset tummies to double ear infections, from being bullied to teenage heartbreak, we want to protect our children from every hard and painful experience we had growing up.
Christi and I maintain a date night once a week. With little kids, it’s necessary for us to stay connected with one another beyond “business talk” or “kid talk.”
However, like most couples, spending money on a babysitter and the date itself can get pretty expensive over time. That’s why we’re creative in what our date nights often look like. Need to stick to your monthly budget?
Christi and I regularly receive calls from spouses searching for answers to the disconnect in their marriage. When a person first begins telling us their story, we usually hear an explanation of what the other person is or isn’t doing in the relationship.
The shooting deaths—and subsequent reactions—of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile are a reflection of how deeply broken our nation really is.
Following those shootings, many of us woke up to the news of five police officers being gunned down—and several others injured—after a protest in Dallas had ended.
This morning, I write as a grieving father…
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Joshua Straub, Ph.D. is an author, speaker, family advocate and professor of child psychology. He is the president and cofounder of The Connextion Group, a company designed to empower parents, spouses and families. Josh speaks and writes on emotionally safe parents and spouses and the influence of technology on today's family. He is the author of Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well and along with his wife, Christi, is the producer and co-author of the video curriculum The Screen-Balanced Family: Six Secrets to a More Connected Family in the 21st Century. For more encouragement and ideas on marriage and parenting in the 21st century you can join Josh and a growing tribe of awesome families at www.joshuastraub.com and follow him on Twitter @joshuastraub or Facebook.
Josh and his Canadian wife Christi reside in Nashville, TN with their son, Landon, and daughter, Kennedy.
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