Quiz - Is Your Relationship Healthy?

Author:
Dr. Tim Clinton
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How do you know if your relationship is healthy or unhealthy? The choices you make can offer an enlightening perspective, a clue to your personal relationship dynamics. 


The following self-test may help you to see the picture more clearly. For each statement below, indicate your agreement or disagreement.

1. I am in a significant relationship with someone who is addicted to a substance or a behavior, someone who is depressed, or someone who is very needy.
Yes___ No___

2. I often feel the weight of responsibility for others’ happiness and well being.
Yes___ No___

3. I can’t say “no” without feeling guilty.
Yes___ No___

4. I can accurately “read” other people by analyzing their facial expressions and tone of voice.
Yes___ No___

5. When I am able to fix others’ problems, I feel strong and valuable.
Yes___ No___

6. I feel that I have to protect people, especially the addicted, out-of-control, or depressed person in my life.
Yes___ No___

7. I live in such a way that no one can ever say I’m selfish.
Yes___ No___

8. I vacillate between defending the irresponsible person and blowing up in anger at him or her.
Yes___ No___

9. I often relive situations and conversations to see if I can think of some way I could have done more or spoken better to relieve stress and solve problems.
Yes___ No___

10. I feel very frightened of angry people.
Yes___ No___

11. I am quite offended by personal criticism.
Yes___ No___

12. To avoid feeling guilt and shame, I seldom stand up to people who disagree with me.
Yes___ No___

Total: Yes___ No___

  • If you answered “yes” to 2 or fewer statements, you probably have relatively healthy boundaries, confidence, and wisdom in relationships. Chapter 9 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, can inspire you to enjoy even deeper relationships that have a foundation in the love of God.

  • If you answered “yes” to 3-6 statements, your life is shaped to a significant degree by the demands of needy people in your life. You would benefit from the input of a competent counselor or support group. Chapter 10 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, offers tips on finding a strong support system.

  • If you answered “yes” to 7 or more statements, you have lost your sense of identity, and you are consumed by the problems of addicted or depressed people in your life. Chapter 4 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, can help you identify the unhealthy patterns that affect your ability to love and be loved.



Image removed. This quiz was created from Dr. Tim and Patrick Springle’s book, Break Through, When to Give In, How to Push Back.

 

 

 


 

 



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