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God Wants Your Marriage to Be Filled with Passion and Romance

Written by Dr. James Dobson | July 29, 2016

Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. 
– Song of Songs 8:7 

No matter how hard we try to define romance, it remains in part a mystery. Yet Solomon's Song of Songs does give us several clues to its nature. In this evocative description of romantic love, we see that it means both intimacy and intense emotional excitement: "My lover is mine and I am his" (2:16); "My heart began to pound for him" (5:4). We see how deep affection inspires desire and complete appreciation for another: "How beautiful you are, my darling!" (4:1). 


We learn that to be romantic means to pursue the object of our affection—and to pine when he or she eludes us: "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him" (3:1). And we see how powerfully a public display of affection communicates romantic love: "He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love" (2:4).

Most important of all, we learn that God intended romance to culminate in the unbreakable bond of married love. The book of Songs reaches its climax with a description of the power of love: "Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like a blazing fire, like a mighty flame" (8:6). The Lord would not have provided us with this scriptural celebration of love and romance unless He intended it as an inspiring example for us.

From Dr. James and Shirley Dobson's daily devotion, Night Light for Couples