By Julie Clinton
Anybody who believes that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach flunked geography. –Robert Byrne
Men want more sex than they are getting. And what's more, they believe that the women who love them don't seem to realize that this is a crisis—not only for the man, but for the relationship…. For your husband, sex is more than just a physical need. Lack of sex is as emotionally serious to him, as say, his sudden silence would be to you, were he simply to stop communicating with you. It is just as wounding to him, just as much a legitimate grievance—and just as dangerous to your marriage.1
• A sexually fulfilled husband will do anything for you. • A sexually fulfilled husband is a scriptural mandate. • A sexually fulfilled husband will feel good about himself. • A sexually fulfilled husband will take on his life work with unmatched vigor and purpose. • A sexually fulfilled husband appreciates the important things in life.2
• A sexually fulfilled husband will do anything for you.
• A sexually fulfilled husband is a scriptural mandate.
• A sexually fulfilled husband will feel good about himself.
• A sexually fulfilled husband will take on his life work with unmatched vigor and purpose.
• A sexually fulfilled husband appreciates the important things in life.2
The reality is that we often want the same things. Our deepest desire, whether we're male or female, is ultimately to become one. He wants intercourse; she wants intercourse. He may want physical intercourse more than she does, and she may want emotional intercourse more than he does, but when a couple can meld physical and emotional intercourse, they will find the pathway to great sex.3
A man’s experience is like a fire of dry leaves. It is easily kindled, flaring up suddenly and dying down just as quickly. A woman's experience, on the other hand, is like a fire glowing charcoal. Her husband has to tend to these coals with loving patience. Once the blaze is burning brightly, it will keep on glowing and radiating warmth for a long time. 4
Touch– Good sex requires that you touch him often. Give back rubs, hold hands, kiss, hug, and caress one another. It's sure to take your intimacy to the next level. Talk– Good sex speaks clearly and gently about caring for, accepting, and valuing your husband. Be sure to express your heartfelt needs and feelings before, during, and after lovemaking.
The next time you're frustrated because he's not getting anything done around the house, and he's complaining he's going to die without sex, go find your raincoat and high heels. You'll be shocked at what he gets done in the next 30 minutes! 1. Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only (Sisters, Oregon: Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 2004), 91-92. 2. Kevin Leman, Sheet Music (Wheaton, Illinois: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 2003), 46-53. 3. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, The Five Sex Needs of Men and Women (Carol Stream,) Illinois: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 2006), 39. 4. Cited in Howard and Jeanne Hendricks, Husbands and Wives (Colorado Springs: Victor Books, 1988), 249.
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Julie Clinton M.Ad., M.B.A. Is president of Extraordinary Women and host of EWomen conferences all across America. A woman of deep faith, she cares passionately about seeing women live out their dreams by finding their freedom in Christ. Julie and her husband, Dr. Tim Clinton, live in Virginia and are the parents of Zach and Megan, who is married to Ben Allison.
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