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What Do Your Kids See In Your Marriage?

Written by Dr. James Dobson | October 17, 2017


Marriage should be honored by all. 

Hebrews 13:4 

Daniel and Debbie fell deeply in love and married eight years ago. About five years later, however, they found themselves drifting apart. Their hectic schedules and the responsibilities of raising a family had stolen the joy from their relationship. Equally disturbing was the fact that their two young children were becoming increasingly irritable and anxious. 

Both parents realized that a change was needed. They committed to each other that they would go on a "date" together every Sunday, even if it was something as simple as relaxing over a cup of coffee at the mall. Gradually, those weekly dates made a difference. Daniel and Debbie began to talk, to enjoy each other again, and to spend more moments together in the Word and in prayer. At the same time, the attitude of their children improved dramatically. 

Granting love and attention to your kids goes a long way toward establishing a stable atmosphere at home. But the best way to foster security in young hearts and minds is to cultivate your relationship with your spouse. When children see, close-up, your ironclad commitment to each other—as well as your unshakable faith in Jesus Christ—they'll begin to develop a sense of assurance about their own future that is likely to stay with them for the rest of their lives. 

Is your marriage solid at the core? What can you do to improve it? Are you demonstrating love and respect for each other? Do your kids know how much your marriage means to you? 

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