3. I can’t say “no” without feeling guilty.
Yes___ No___

4. I can accurately “read” other people by analyzing their facial expressions and tone of voice.
Yes___ No___

5. When I am able to fix others’ problems, I feel strong and valuable.
Yes___ No___

6. I feel that I have to protect people, especially the addicted, out-of-control, or depressed person in my life.
Yes___ No___

7. I live in such a way that no one can ever say I’m selfish.
Yes___ No___

8. I vacillate between defending the irresponsible person and blowing up in anger at him or her.
Yes___ No___

9. I often relive situations and conversations to see if I can think of some way I could have done more or spoken better to relieve stress and solve problems.
Yes___ No___

10. I feel very frightened of angry people.
Yes___ No___

11. I am quite offended by personal criticism.
Yes___ No___

12. To avoid feeling guilt and shame, I seldom stand up to people who disagree with me.
Yes___ No___

Total: Yes___ No___

• If you answered “yes” to 2 or fewer statements, you probably have relatively healthy boundaries, confidence, and wisdom in relationships. Chapter 9 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, can inspire you to enjoy even deeper relationships that have a foundation in the love of God.

• If you answered “yes” to 3-6 statements, your life is shaped to a significant degree by the demands of needy people in your life. You would benefit from the input of a competent counselor or support group. Chapter 10 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, offers tips on finding a strong support system.

• If you answered “yes” to 7 or more statements, you have lost your sense of identity, and you are consumed by the problems of addicted or depressed people in your life. Chapter 4 from Dr. Clinton’s book, Break Through, can help you identify the unhealthy patterns that affect your ability to love and be loved.

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