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Bringing Up Girls: Why She Is Who She Is

“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”

– Genesis 1:27 (NIV)

It begins at conception, when males and females start their developmental journeys down two very different paths. That juncture will affect the way they think, feel, and act for the rest of their lives. The brains of both sexes appear to be “female” until about the eighth week when a male brain is washed by a huge surge of testosterone. It is then transformed radically and even takes on a different color.

This male sex hormone kills some of the communication cells, including a portion of the bundle of nerves called the corpus callosum. It is a rope of fibers that connects the right hemisphere, where emotion is processed, with the left, where language is focused. Although the corpus callosum survives the testosterone bath, the male brain will never be able to “cross talk” as effectively thereafter, which has major implications for future masculine behavior. Testosterone also causes an increase in the volume of neurons and circuits located in the boy’s sex and aggression centers.

Because the female brain is not subjected to a comparable surge of testosterone in the womb and beyond, its communicative and emotional centers remain intact. In fact, these structures will grow larger and become better networked neurologically. A girl’s corpus callosum is up to 25 percent larger than a male’s and becomes an eight-lane superhighway capable of carrying great quantities of emotional information from one side of the brain to the other. (For boys, it is a country road.)

As a result, a girl is likely to be more expressive and emotional than most boys almost from birth. She will probably feel things more deeply and respond to subtle cues in her environment that boys are likely to miss. She will be far better at reading character and motives in others, although she probably won’t be able to explain how she does it. She will also cry more often, even as an adult. Every man knows that, and he is typically rattled by it. She is a girl, after all. That’s what girls do.

(From Dr. James Dobson’s book, Bringing Up Girls.)

Pray Over Your Daughter

Dear Heavenly Father,

Thank You for the gift of my daughter, with her unique capacity for communication, empathy, and deep emotional connection. Help me celebrate and cherish the way You created her. Give me wisdom, patience, and love as I guide her toward becoming the woman You desire her to be. Amen.

Put It Into Practice

  • Reflect on the unique qualities God has given your daughter. Ask Him to help you better understand the way He created her so you can encourage her with wisdom, patience, and love.

  • Thank God for the gift of your daughter. Then ask Him to guide you as you faithfully nurture her faith and character throughout each stage of her life.

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Dr. James Dobson

Dr. James Dobson

Dr. James Dobson was the Founder Chairman of the James Dobson Family Institute, a nonprofit organization that produced his radio program, Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk. He earned a Ph.D. from the University of Southern California and held 18 honorary doctoral degrees. He also was the author of more than 70 books dedicated to the preservation of the family.

Dr. Dobson served as an associate clinical professor of pediatrics at the University of Southern California School of Medicine for 14 years, and on the attending staff of Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles for 17 years in the divisions of child development and medical genetics.

He advised five U.S. presidents and served on eight national commissions.

Dr. Dobson was married to Shirley for just shy of 65 years, and he was the beloved father of two grown children, Danae and Ryan, and two grandchildren.

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