Letting Go of Your Grown Child
We come now to the final task assigned to mothers and fathers, that of releasing grown children and launching them into the world of adulthood. It is also one of the most difficult.
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We come now to the final task assigned to mothers and fathers, that of releasing grown children and launching them into the world of adulthood. It is also one of the most difficult.
Are you aware that the average person between the ages of eight and eighteen spends approximately 44.5 hours each week engaging with some form of media? That's the equivalent of a full-time job and several hours of overtime! With consumption at this level, it's little wonder that media has become a type of "super-peer," influencing behaviors and shaping values.
It’s important to understand how kids think. Their conflict often becomes a way of manipulating parents. Quarreling and fighting provide an opportunity for both children to capture adult attention. It has been written, “Some children had rather be wanted for murder than not wanted at all.” Toward this end, a pair of obnoxious kids can tacitly agree to bug their parents until they get a response—even if it is an angry reaction.
Successful family life is difficult to achieve. It is never perfect and is often problematic. You have your own set of challenges as you seek to meet the needs of your children. You may be a single parent with very limited financial resources. Perhaps you suffer from illness, disability, or addiction. Or maybe you have strong-willed kids who are tough to handle.
Parents, we must be on our knees in prayer every day and be ready to go into battle for the souls of our children! On today’s edition of Family Talk, Dr. James Dobson talks with Sally Burke, president of Moms in Prayer International, about the power we have through prayer to intercede for our kids and their schools. Sally shares about the miracles God is doing through Moms in Prayer which has grown by leaps and bounds, as well as her book entitled Unshaken: Experience the Power and Peace of a Life of Prayer. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 declares, “Pray without ceasing.”
Let's look at the threats to self-esteem that must come as your child matures. From about three years of age, your little pride and joy begins making his way into the world of other people.
Question: Dr. Dobson, I worry so much about my children and wonder if I'm raising them wisely. Every few days my husband and I encounter a problem we don't know how to handle. Is it common for parents to feel this way?
Question: Dr. Dobson, how much self-control and Christian responsibility can we expect of a child? For example, my five-year-old daughter has a rather passive personality, and she is constantly being hit, kicked and pinched by other children in the neighborhood. I have taught her not to fight back, showing her the words of Jesus in the Bible. Still, it hurts me to see her beaten—sometimes by children much smaller than she is. What do you suggest?
Question: Dr. Dobson, you have said that the children of godly parents sometimes go into severe rebellion and never return to the faith they were taught. I have seen that happen to some wonderful families that loved the Lord and were committed to the church. Still, it appears contradictory to Scripture. How do you interpret Proverbs 22:6, which says, "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it"? Doesn't that verse mean, as it implies, that the children of wise and dedicated Christian parents will never be lost? Doesn't it promise that all wayward offspring will return, sooner or later, to the fold?
On today’s edition of Family Talk, Dr. James Dobson concludes his heartfelt discussion with Rob and Dianne Parsons, founders of the U.K. based organization, Care for the Family. Rob and Dianne have a special place in their hearts for the myriad of trials and sometimes guilt that mothers experience. Whether you’re a stay-at-home, working or a single mom, the Parsons unveil a brave new world and provide hope for anyone feeling defeated by the rigors of bringing up their sons and daughters. You’re not alone in your struggles.



