“Be kind and compassionate to each other, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
—Ephesians 4:32
The great tragedies of life can undermine committed love, but so can minor frustrations. These daily irritants, when accumulated over time, might be even more threatening to a marriage than the catastrophic events that crash into our lives. And yes, there are times in every marriage when a husband and wife don’t like each other very much. There may be occasions when anger or disappointment takes the fun out of a relationship temporarily. Emotions are like that. They occasionally flatten out like an automobile tire with a nail in it. Riding on the rim is a pretty bumpy experience for everyone on board.
The next time you’re tempted to trade in your spouse, remember that divorce must never be considered an option for those who are committed to each other for life. Instead, determine to work on your points of friction and to accept the human frailties and faults in your spouse. He or she must accept an equal number of flaws in you as well. A covenant of commitment and acceptance is a powerful secret to lifelong love.
Ask yourself these questions . . .
- What “daily irritant” between you and your spouse is most frustrating to you?
- As a couple, have you become better or worse at handling everyday aggravations?
- How can you work together to reduce frustrations in your marriage?
Ask God for help . . .
Dear Lord, You know how small irritations often cause pain in our marriage. As we humbly release these annoyances to You, please heal us. Forgive our pride. Anoint our marriage with Your grace. Help us develop a loving relationship that’s stronger than any fault or foible. Amen.
From Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples.
