Every couple experiences conflict at times. But some marriages remain strong while others become unstable. What’s the secret? In this video, Brenen and Morgan Beeler explain that what you do right after a disagreement can determine how secure your union will remain. Answering four simple questions can help prevent small disputes from turning into destructive battles that have severe consequences. These insights come from the devotional “After the Fight” on page 178 of Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples.

There’s a line in every relationship that’s easy to cross without thinking. All it takes is repeating thoughtless acts such as coming home late without calling or spending money frivolously. These blunders seem harmless, but if done frequently can break down trust and devalue your spouse.