Marriage Without Fighting
Question: Dr. Dobson, do you think happily married husbands and wives should be able to live together without fighting?
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Question: Dr. Dobson, do you think happily married husbands and wives should be able to live together without fighting?
In his book, Bringing Up Girls, Dr. James Dobson shares an amazing quote by John Adams, the second president of the United States. Adams wrote, “The manners of women are the most infallible barometer to ascertain the degree of morality and virtue in a nation.” After studying history and observing different societies, Adams concluded that when women no longer prioritize modesty and domestic virtue, nations eventually lost their public spirit and even their forms of government. That is a strong statement, but Adams understood something important: The character of women shapes the character of a culture. Today, many people believe that cultural change is the result of politics, media, or education. These areas do matter. But Scripture points to a deeper truth. Real change begins in the heart, then moves into the home, and spreads throughout the community. When women walk closely with the Lord and live out their faith in daily life, they create a ripple effect that reaches far beyond their front doors. In my recent blog, Hope for Your Marriage When Your Partner Is Distant, I talked about the power of quiet faithfulness. When a husband pulls away emotionally, his wife’s first instinct may be to argue harder, demand change, or withdraw in hurt. Yet 1 ...
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